one of my biggest pet peeves is when people are like, “i don’t care, my significant other can go through my phone. i have nothing to hide.”
okay. first of all.
wanting a partner to respect your privacy doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand with “having something to hide.” maybe you’d just prefer that they trust you without putting you under surveillance like a fucking prisoner?
second.
it’s not only your privacy. if you’re cool with that shit, i really hope you’re informing all your friends and family members who discuss their personal lives with you that they should be prepared for your shitty SO to read through all their messages to you, but i’m betting you’re not doing that.
maybe your bestie from high school doesn’t want your boyfriend seeing her emotional messages about her recent breakup? maybe your sister doesn’t want him reading her messages about struggles with her kids or her marriage? maybe your friend with mental health issues isn’t counting on you sharing their struggles with anyone else?
maybe you should grow up and realize that if your partner loves and respects you, they’ll believe you have nothing to hide without checking for themself.
some of you in the comments are dense as hell. your trust issues brought on by past cheaters do not give you free reign to emotionally abuse your partner. sorry, work on yourself and then get into a relationship because if you feel the need to do this shit, you’re not ready.
Yeah like, my husband and I know all of each other’s passwords because we use variations of them for everything, and nobody freaks out when a phone is grabbed, etc. But we literally never get into each other’s shit??? Ever?? If you really feel the need to search your partners social media then you really need to take a step back and ask yourself why you’re in this relationship in the first place. Like damn people are allowed to have their stuff.
Kismet and Chaos 